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is it ok to keep telling my adult son that he shouldn't drink alcohol?
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I have a brother who claims to be a christian, yet drinks alot(every weekend). And I also have a 24 year old son who drinks occasionally...who has 3 young children. I tell him I don't approve of his drinking...& won't babysit for them if they do. Should I refrain from telling them or is it ok?
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It depends upon whether or not he has a drinking problem. The Bible doesn't forbid drinking altogether, it only forbids being drunk.
I believe that taking such a stand is great and you should not back down, in the sense of compromise. Having said that, though, I do believe that constant talk about it will probably not help. He will just get annoyed and continue ignoring you.
Before I say anything else on the matter, I must ask, have you told him why he should stop drinking? Or just that you don't approve?
Children seem unlikely to listen to parents when mum and dad simply say, "I don't like you doing so". It works until your children hit their teenage years. After that, it'd be a miracle to get your children to accept and obey simply because it's your opinion.
Come to your son with love and, in love, explain to him why you think his habits, although only occasional, will be a bad example to his children and affect his way of thinking.
Is your son a Christian?
And a little feedback on MVPs comment, the Bible says a little "wine" is good, not a little alcohol. Back then the wine was simply fermented grape juice and not mixed with alcohol. We need to be careful when we take that verse out of its context and era.
Fubbz, I thank you for the clarification as I did not know that wine had no alcohol in it back then. However, I still conclude that my point is valid because the Bible does not forbid alcohol but it does forbid being drunk. As we know, people can drink alcohol without getting drunk. For clarity, it's like how the Bible forbids only premarital sex, not sex altogether, meaning sex with your spouse is ok.
Thank you both for your quick response...yes my son is a Christian...and received Christ when he was a teenager. Though I think he is fighting peer pressure with his inlaws(they call my son/daughter inlaw goodie2shoes). His wife says she's a Christian & received Christ when she was young. I think they both kind of rationalize when they say it's only sometimes. I guess I just assume they should know better, so the parent/child relationship kicks in. I will remember to speak to them in love. (I was just remembering a part in the bible also...about drinking wine...& not just water...that it's good for your stomach. Do you recall that in the bible?)
And as for my brother, he received Christ...though he goes to church sporatically. I think he may have a drinking problem. My son always says...at least I don't drink like him(rationalizing again). I pray for them(son/brother) to be free from all that is hindering their relationship...& grow deeper in HIM.
God bless you both! And thanks again....d