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Is oral sex adultery?
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I also am needing to know what constitues adultery? Sleeping together?
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(1) First you have to separate three things -- how God views the world, how your wife (or husband) view the world, and how society views the world.
(2) God said: "You have heard that it was said, 'Do not commit adultery.' But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart." (Matthew 5:27-28). So if you are LUSTFUL towards a person other than your spouse -- even if you don't act on the desire, then you're committing adulterty. However, a mere unconscious physical reaction doesn't count -- but you must REJECT these desires and not give way to them.
(3) Society might believe that full intercourse is adultery and anything less doesn't count...but what matters is what your SPOUSE believes. If he or she believes that kissing another woman (or man) is adultery, then that is the definition of adultery...if your spouse believes that holding someone else's hand is unfaithfulness, then don't do it. Christians are required to be loyal to their spouses, not to turn their attentions (physical and emotional) on other men or women who are not their spouse -- EVEN if they don't commit sexual activities (yet).
If you are saying "Oral sex" in the sense of it being outside marriage then yes. Whether you're single or married, if you have any physical contact with any other woman, I believe it's adultery.
One thing I'd like to add, which may seem contradictory to the person who commented before me, is that personally I don't think it matters what my partner thinks about what is adultery and what isn't. You see people living in "open relationships". Does that mean it's no longer adultery? As was quoted, Jesus said "If any man looks at a woman lustfully" simply a look, "he has already committed adultery with her in his heart". It doesn't matter what anyone thinks, all that matters is what God thinks.
You think it over with yourself. If you aren't a Christian I encourage you to make that decision before it's too late. But my advise for you with regards to this subject is that you just think it over with yourself. Adultery is "unfaithfulness" according to the dictionary. When having oral sex or any other sexual activity, are you being faithful to your partner? are you being faithful to yourself? Aren't you defiling your body? Aren't you exposing yourself to someone who hasn't become one with you through marriage? Isn't that adultery?
The previous poster Fubbz explained things very clearly and I hope you do exactly what he or she said.
However, I just wanted to clarify a question that Fubbz raised --
God's definition of adultery as "unfaithfulness", whether in heart or in actions, is the most important. We must follow God's command. However, understanding your spouse's definition of adultery can help provide a guideline for how to act to ensure you're not hurting her (his) feelings.