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My fiance and I are living together,we sleep in seperate rooms and beds.Weve gone to this church for a while and one day my pastor asked to talk to us.He said if we didnt get married soon he will kick us out of the flock.Is this scriptural? I
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We both are believers and have been baptized,we dont fornicate like I said we have our own rooms.
I find it hard to believe where our pastor who said he loved us to say hes going to make us leave the church.It makes me want to find another church to go to,whould Jesus say something like that? I dont think He would
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It's the implication. An intended couple living together. To many Christians, that sounds like a case of cohabitation. Hebrews 13:4 states the marriage bed shall not be dishonored. 1 Timothy 5:1-2 commands Christian women to treat men as brothers, and vice versa. To live together as a couple without official marriage is to mock both commandments. This, naturally, raises concerns among brethren who are touched by such circumstances.
The pastor is probably worried that, to say it as nicely as possible, one of you doesn't stay in your room at night. There may be separate beds and chambers, but that does not make the two of you separate. Your pastor is concerned about how close the relationship really is. The question, "Why are you not married?" comes to mind.
A pastor must take good and detailed care of the whole flock, not cater to two of the sheep. So, he may be wary of what kind of example and message is being sent to the rest of the congrergation. The two of you may have the self control to not engage in close intimacy, but others - many others - will not have that kind of will power (Romans 14:14-23).
Jesus was "a travelling preacher;" He never had a same, stable congregation week to week. Each day the thousands of faces He taught were different. Therefore, He would not have come into contact with a situation like your's now.
Granted, Jesus is merciful and forgiving. John 8:1-11 is a well known example of that. A woman is caught in adultery. The Jews wish her stoned, but Jesus' intervention sends them walking away. He then says to the woman: "Then neither do I condemn you...Go now and leave your life of sin." He forgave her, but commanded her to leave the sin behind. Jesus' merciful act did not include ignoring or tolerating her sin.
Further more, there is a case in Scripture in which - by Paul's urging - an immoral brother was expelled from the church (1 Corinthians 5:1-5).
It boils down to your word against his, and willingness on your part to remedy the situation. Your pastor is probably using expelling as a last recourse, for your and other's sakes. His decision is one of discernment, and consideration for all involved. The ending is up to you.