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My girlfriend needs sex, what do I do?
Posted on Tuesday, Feb 16, 2010 by hopefulseeking
Posted In: Dating & Relationships
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My girlfriend had some experiences early in life that I would rather not mention. However these experiences have left huge scars, and have resulted in her having very strong sexual urges. I know she loves me but sometimes the urges are so strong that she has sex with other guys, and each time it hurts us both so bad and tears at our relationship. She says she only wants me, and begs me to have sex with her so that she won't end up having sex with someone else. She is a Christian and wants to do the right thing, but her urges are so strong they are unbearable for her. I want to end this torture for her but I don't know what to do. I feel like if I have sex with her it will save her from having sex with other guys she doesn't really know. Please help.
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She needs Christian counceling to start healing.Try to help her by leading her in that direction.
A pastor or an elder with you can help show her Gods love and Jesus healing power.
I am speaking to you as a formerly broken and abused woman myself.I experienced healing through Christ and Christian couselors.
Dionne is right, she doesn't need sex. She needs Jesus! Only He can heal, and satisfy, and set a person free. She needs help. Do try to find a good Bible believing Pastor or counselor.
Dr. James Dobson and Tim and Beverly LaHaye, and Dr. Charlie Shedd, have some good books on the subject too. You can get some from interlibrary loan through any public library.
And read the Bible and seek God together.
My friend, if your girlfriend has sex with other "guys" because you don't have sex with her, do you really think she'll stop if you have sex with her?
Sexual desire is a fire. You feed it wood, it won't be satisfied. You feed it wood only from home, it won't be satisfied. For goodness sake, that fire will burn your home, your neighbor's home and every home to the other side of the world unless it is, somehow, stopped.
How do you stop sexual desire? As my fellow friends have mentioned, Christ only can stop that desire. Your girlfriend needs to speak to someone. If she truly loves you and wants to stop, let her pray and then seek some help from someone.
I'm sure many out there are willing to help her out but let me tell you this, if she does not desire to stop then nothing will help. If she is truly a Christian, let her pray and then seek help. If she isn't a Christian, then I'm sure you know where she ought to start.
Let me know if you'd like more help as to what to do or if you'd like any contact details. I pray that you will find your answer.
Thank you all for your advice. We have definitely been praying about this. It has been hard to find a spiritual advisor since it is such an emotional subject for her, but I think she is slowly starting to open up to a few people at church. I think she is slowly learning how to fight the desires. Thank you all for your thoughts and prayers and please continue to pray for us.