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My husband shot up meth bought a prostitute and spend all our money on drugs and hookers making us neg. Over 1500 in the account. He has been very physically abusive in the past and mentally abusive now to me but loves our 3 year old son.
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He was been a meth junkie all his life and got clean about 9 years ago and found Christ. We got married 5 years ago I am a reborn Christian and while I was preg with our only son he physically beat me up and that for the most part has stopped but the mental and verbal abuse is still an everyday thing. He recently went to Oregon on a "father son camping trip" but he droped my son off at his parents and went on a 4 day meth run spending all our money on sex with hookers and drugs and then calls me at 2 am to confess what he has done now when I look at him all I do is cry a I see track marks on his arms and invision women doing things to him. He tells me he did it to see if I would stick around and he said he was sorry bit then turns around and says I was the one that made him do it. Our bank is now -1300 and no bills can now be paid. I don't want a divorce but I don't want to stay either I don't believe he is done. Please any words of encouragment or what ever God is tellin you to tell me I have been reading the bible and everytime I open it the subject is about divorce and adultry is God saying I should leave and take my 3 year old away from his daddy?
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Forgive me for saying, but you need to leave him. You say that he loves your son, but if he loved your son, he wouldn't have left him for 4 days to go on his binge.
We are children of God. God is our Father in heaven and He does not like it when people mistreat His children. You are his wife, not his door mat that he can walk all over. He apparently has replaced your love with something else.
Although you say he was once a christian, it is apparent that the Holy Spirit does not reside in him, the enemy and his coharts now reside in his heart. Your husband needs deliverance, but apparently he is not ready.
In order to change and see the light, your husband is going to have to hit rock bottom. When a person gets so low, there's only one place to go and that's up. In my opinion, you should leave him. Not only for your sanity, but for your son as well. Your son may be young, but he is still impressionable. You don't want your son to walk in his father's footsteps or degrade women when he grows up.
The bible does state that the wife is to submit to her husband, but that only applies when the husband is submitting to Christ. The bible also forgives divorce when the spouse has commited adultery. In this case, he has.
You also need to protect your health.
God forbid, if he slept with someone who had AIDS and then you get it, who woult take care of your son? Him? I don't think so. I can understand if you love him, but you sticking by his side will not convince him to stop his actions. Maybe if you leave, it will scare him into realizing you mean business. You are not going to take his abuse anymore, and that he must make a desicion.
If you do decide to leave, my suggestion is not to return until he has made an actal effort to return to the Lord and get help. Do not be afraid, God is with you. God will provide. Trust in the Lord and do not let the enemy fill your head with lies. The enemy will provide him with words in order to make you feel guilty and manipulate you into staying.
Ask God for wisdom, strength, and guidance. Be strong. Good luck and may God bless you and keep you safe always.
Please get out of this relationship. That's terrible and illegal. I don't know if I've heard of anything worse in this subject. He bought a prostitute, he's on drugs, he's hurting you....leave him!!! Pray to God and ask him what you should do...please leave him, leave him right now!
I believe that you should leave him, not divorce him, leave him. God hates divorce. 1 Corinthians 7:11 "But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried, or BE RECONCILED to [her] husband: and let not the husband put away [his] wife."
You cannot allow your young son to be part of a life where he sees you being abused by your husband. I was that little boy once, and I still wish my Christian mother would have left my father way back then. I love my father today. He has changed for the better, but is still verbally abusive to my mother when me and my brother aren't around. I am now 48 and know that our lives would've been much better if she would've prayed about it and left my father. God might've caused my father to get saved back then if we would've left. He still isn't saved. You can't believe anything your husband says about you being the cause for his foolish, immature, and irresponsible actions. If you stay with a man that beats you, you will cause your children to dispise the both of you; your husband because he is evil and mean enough to put you and him through this, and you because you are willing to put up with it without taking your childs' mental welfare and physical safety into why you should definitely leave. I really do feel for you and you son. I will be praying for you more than anyone this week. I hope you do the right thing. PS Don't ask your child what he wants to do. Don't put him on the spot like that. Be the grown up and decide yourself. Be strong for both your sakes. Pray, pray pray and read your bible.
divorce is not a sin. God just does'nt like what it does to families. This is not what God has in mind for you and your child. Get out and don't look back.