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Should a married women live by her own convictions or her husbands demands?
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I feel a strong conviction that my place in the world is in the home taking care of my home and family; my husband thinks we need the money for me to hold a job outside the home; I do currently have a job but can not stay focused because my heart is at home; I feel that my home and family are suffering due to my working.
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I suppose answering that question would first require of us to know whether your husband is a Christian or not.
The Bible says that the head of every woman is man, and the head of every man is Christ. That's not to say you ought to obey him like he's your master because he isn't. God created the man for the woman just as he created the woman for the man. Both are equal. You ought to love and submit to him as he ought to love and submit to you. It's a two-way thing. But it's a bit hard accomplishing that if the head of the man is not Christ.
With regards to your question, should you listen to your heart or your husband? I'd say pray. I cannot make this decision for you but what I can do is advise you to talk it out with your husband. He thinks the family needs money and you think the family needs provision at home. It isn't necessarily a clash of opinions. Both are taking care of your family but from different perspectives. I think you should come to your husband understanding his opinion and try to convey your opinion through as well.
Work it out with your husband. Main issue is, don't let this cause a problem or argument. If he remains strict on his opinion, with Christian courtesy and for the glory of God, submit. Pray for your family. God will find a way.
I'll be praying for you too, my friend.
My husband and I will have our 25th anniversary in May; his heart for the Lord was what drew me to him when we married; we had dated for 6 years, practically growing up together in those years; he has professed Christianity ever since I've known him; however, over the last ten years, he has stopped having family devotions and now makes fun of me when I attempted to explain that my view is not just a feeling; I do pray daily for our situation and honestly feel convicted; I even feel guilty every day that I go to work. One other issue we have is our sons; we have three, ages 21, 19, and 8; my husband has even allowed one of our son's girlfriends move into our home, which I would not disapprove of under her circumstances, but if I had a voice in our home; they would not be sleeping in the same bedroom. My husband has definitly shown a change even though if asked, he would still say he is a Christian.
Thank you for your advice and prayers. When I am praying, studying the Bible, and attempting to hear God's voice, I can't find anything except the verses related to submission and God hates divorce; maybe I am just being selfish; but the guilt I feel for working outside the home is taking a toll on me; I tend to feel that my family would not be so lax if I had the time to spend keeping house and showing the love that is in my heart.
My sister, I am very concerned for you but I do want to hand this over to God. I cannot give you advice on what to do and what not to do. This is a very tough situation but I want to encourage you not to give up.
I am not God to tell you whether I think your husband is a Christian or not. My opinion doesn't matter. If you believe he is then I pray that God will strengthen his heart and bring him back to the fold. If he isn't a Christian, I pray that God will open up his heart.
A Child of God cannot stay far from God for long. With regards to your children and your son's girlfriend, surrender them to God. I am praying for you, please don't give up. I know it's hard. I don't comprehend exactly how hard it is but I can imagine. If you ever need to share or pour your heart out to someone, I encourage you to go ahead and do so. But always pray.
If you need anything else, please just ask. I am willing to share with you my contact details also if you think it would help.