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What are some good ways to make sure my boyfriend and I wait till we are married for sex
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My boyfriend and I struggle with sexual temptations, but both of us know that is not how we want to live our lives. We have broken up once but it only lasted a week because we just felt we could do more. I feel like with the right discipline and boundaries we can make this work. We are both 20 years old and have been together for over two years. Do you have any other suggestions other then marriage and breaking up?
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There are really no answers other than marriage or breaking up since having boyfriends and girlfriends is unbiblical.
If you don't plan on getting married anytime soon then it is not good to put yourself in situations where you will be constantly tempted. The greatest commandment is to love the Lord with all your heart and to love each other as we love ourselves.
The Bible says love covers a multitude of sins. Because if you truly have love for your Christian brothers and sisters you would not want to put them in an unholy situation. Just like sometimes with the way some girls dress today, they see the Bible telling women to dress modestly and think of it as rule keeping, but in reality if they love their brothers in Christ they would not want to provoke them with sinful thoughts and feelings. So when it comes to relationships, it can be sort of the same except much harder that is why marriage is so important
wait, having boyfriends and girlfriends is unbiblical? how are we supposed to find the person to spend the rest of our lives with, if we dont test the waters? I am very confused by your response.
I think the person above my own comment is very wrong on one thing. How in the world is having a boyfriend or a girlfriend unbiblical? That's not right my friend. In the end, YES, the answer is marriage. But going around I think having a boyfriend or girlfriend and taking it the way this nice young lady has is the right and better thing to do than sleeping around. She is searching for her forever mate and there is NOTHING wrong with that. Having a boyfriend/girlfriend is NOT a sin and you should not be discouraged from it. Just because you may have one doesn't mean they are constantly tempting each other. I think you should both keep promising each other how great it will be when you are finally able to gift each other your virginity. Remind him after a kiss every now and then. Don't make it seem like a burden, make it seem like the best thing in the world to wait for, because it really is :] Hope this helps!
yuukii.. I can tell you how having a girlfriend or boyfriend, or even simply dating for that matter is unbiblical.. there is no biblical bases for it.. how in the world do you figure having a boyfriend or girlfriend is biblical. especially since dating and being together with someone without being married never happened with Christians until the 1900s.
Can you explain to me then how people ended up getting married in the first place? Are you married? If you are, did you just walk up to a person on the street and get married to a stranger? I don't mean to sound defensive but I think you're steering the poor girl in the wrong direction.
umm there is nothing wrong with having a courtship before marriage. Heres a few suggestions 1. Always have plans for what your gonna do when you get together. Don't just meet up and sit on a couch or bed for hours. Things can get tempting. 2.Be around family and friends have lots of fun just seeing each other around other people. 3. Dedicate your time to God. Not giving in to sex is kind of like fasting, so pray.4.Get married if you really feel like you are gonna be together for ever.
well, don't dwell on it.
what i mean is that if you constantly think about it, it will become a temptation. don't dream about it, imagine it, remove any thought of sex from your mind, if it helps, avoid all touch with him, stop kissing for a few days, stop thinking about kissing. everything, every action starts in your head, its best to stop it there.
for a few days, try not to kiss him. And pray whenever you feel the urge to do something god doesn't wish for you to do.
marriage? break up? ..hmmm wat about a break
just like one week for both of you to think of what god wants you to do. and in that weeek no contact at all. so then ull just come right back to eachother and make a decision together
love is patiant
1rst corinthians 4-8
meditata on the word of those versus and then decide
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