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Why do some Christians condemn divorced people
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I read the articles here on this issue, but I still feel very frustrated.
After many years of absence, I decided to go back to church. I was in so much pain from my divorce that I needed to lean on Jesus.
I didn't want divorce but I live in a no fault state where anyone can get a divorce as long as one spouse seeks it. My ex-husband was so eager to divorce me to be with his mistress.
My church has a small congregation but my pastor and most church family members are very welcoming. The other day, we did bible study on Mathew 19 where Jesus was questioned about divorce by Pharisees. In a discussion with a small group, some couple started talking about some other church where divorced people were treated as second citizens and they were not allowed to help out in the nursery, etc. as if they had some sort of disease.
Although my church doesn't treat me like that, it is extremely sad and frustrating to know that some Christians actually treat divorced people like that. Why? I simply don't understand it. Are these Christians sinless to condemn others? This type of Christians scare away non-Christians; I know a few people who always criticize this kind of Christian behavior and I don't blame them. I feel like I should stop going to church. Maybe some people think the same way and they just don't show it. Am I over reacting? Am I too sensitive? What would Jesus say to my situation? Why do some Christians treat divorced people as second citizens?
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Some Christians may do this to produce guilt in those people about divorcing, only adultery is the Biblical ground for divorce. Although there are plenty of times when anyone can go too far, and no they are not sinless. We are told to drive out those who claim to be Christian, yet practice sin as there way of life, practice however does not mean commit once.
In many states today, you can divorce your spouse just because you want to, without a good reason. What should the spouse do? He/she didn't want the divorce! But some Christians condemn them no matter what.
Divorce is a very sad thing indeed because it is a union between a man and a woman in the presence of God. There are many christians, many religions, and many churches that like to point fingers at other peoples faults.
They are quick to criticize other religions, but the word of God says, "Judge not lest ye be judged." "With the same measure you judged, you shall be judged as well."
We are not perfect by any means. The only perfect one was Jesus. If the party in the relationship is being abused whether it be sexually, physically, verbally, emotionally, or mentally...I strongly believe that is perfect grounds for a seperation and perhaps a divorce. Yes, the bible only speaks of divorce through adultery or death.
But the truth of the matter is that we are God's children and He wants us to be happy not miserable. Yes, we need to pray for guidance and the only one who can judge us is the Lord..no one else. Yes, it is true that we all worship one God. We are all a part of the body of Christ and none are better than the other. It's ashamed to hear the foot saying that it's better than the eyes, when we need our eyes to see where we're going, and our ears to hear what is being said. Just like the different religious denominations, there is none better than the other.
All these denominations together make up the body of Christ, when one religion believes itself to be too righteous even for it's members, then that denomination or part of the body has become handicapp. Jesus ate and socialized with the sinners, He did not shun them.
We need to do the same to our brothers and sisters in Christ who have made a possible mistake. We need to be there for them and guide them not turn our backs to them and cast them into the world. When this is done, then we are no better than the world, cold and heartless.
I think I need to focus on Jesus. I shouldn't get discouraged by certain people.